Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.
I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.
I wish I had enough money to do a festival this summer in addition to the great voyage 😩
- Rolling Stone: Did you know Frank Ocean was gay before he came out last year?
- Tyler, the Creator: Yeah, I was one of the first people he told. I kinda knew, because he likes Pop Tarts without frosting on them, so I knew something was weird. But that’s my nigga.
they are my two favorite people in the world
“thats my nigga” omg
tyler is so smart,love him so much
(Source: hiphopfightsback, via classyfriday)
#once a player always a player
OMG Chris Harrison pushing Juan Pablo to say “I love you” to Nikki on national television. I’m sorry but this is fabulous…if Nikki still can’t see how horrible this P.O.S. is, then honestly, she will.
I’ve been through a year of life with a devil like this. It’s never going to get better, Nikki. Not on national tv, not ever.
"if someone hurts you, stay the fuck away, no matter how hard it is, stay the fuck away"
"Racism is not in your intent. Your intent is immaterial in how racist your actions are. This isn’t about you BEING a racist. It’s about you DOING A THING that is racist. Your intent doesn’t change it. Your ignorance of its meaning doesn’t change it. It’s got nothing to do with you as a person and everything to do with the meaning of your action in the context of sociocultural history."
Woodgreen Community Service in Toronto designed this campaign as part of their Homeward Bound Program supporting struggling single mothers. [x] [via]
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a good friend sent me this screenshot from his facebook feed today and wow
can we just talk about male assault for a second
and how shit like this is why men are less likely to report being raped because society tells them that they “got lucky” or whatever the fuck bullshit that is
and how there’s people like this who think that’s just the funniest shit they’ve ever heard
not to mention that “joke,” meaning that if you don’t enjoy being raped by the opposite gender then well you MUST be gay
hilarious. sexual assault is so fucking hilarious. wow, you’re all comedy geniuses; your parents must be so damn proud.
because absolutely none of this is funny.
Holy shit. My FIRST thought was ‘what the fuck is wrong with her?!’. And now…WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THEM?
(Source: cleferi, via feministphilanthropist)
Deadliest Gang in LA: MS-13
Deadliest Gang in Chicago: Latin Kings
Deadliest Gang in NY: NYPD
Deadliest Gang in FL: Old white men
"You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in."